I’ve never met a parent who has said they’ve never had a bad day parenting. It happens to us all and sometimes I need to give myself little reminders to keep things in check. Here are nine things I tell myself when the (baby) shit hits the fan:
1. You can’t get it right all the time
I feel like I tell myself this a lot. There are so many elements to being a ‘good’ parent, often it’s hard to do everything exactly right. I have to remind myself you can’t get it right all the time. Where would the fun be in that?!
2. What’s right for them isn’t right for us
Constant comparisons between what I’m doing and what others are doing can really get me down. Sometimes I feel we should be doing something different about sleep or eating or playing because it works for others. It doesn’t always mean it’ll work for us.
3. I know what’s best for my child
When you’re a first time parent, you question yourself a lot. Partially because you’re winging it and partially because you’re inundated with advice. At the end of the day I always tell myself, I know what’s best for my baby.
4. Tomorrow is another day
Some days are just complete write-offs. There’s no two ways around it, every parent has a few of those days. Things always feel better after a sleep (if your baby sleeps of course!).
5. It will pass
Something me and my wife always said to each other when things got tough was “it’ll pass”. It kept us sane through sleep regressions, teething and those awful car journeys that felt like they’d never end. It’s so true as well!
6. It’s character building
The challenges you face as a parent are monumental and at times you really feel tested. When your child is smearing yoghurt into your hair whilst you calmly try to wipe the excess dinner up, you just need to remind yourself that it’s all good- It’s making you a better person!
7. Nobody said it was easy
In the wise words of Coldplay, “nobody said it was easy” being a parent. Obviously Chis Martin and co. weren’t directly referring to parenting here, but it’s so fitting. Apart from those annoying people who say everything is easy (liars) being a parent is seriously tough at times.
8. It’s going to be OK
After another night of no sleep, you may need to remind yourself you’re not in fact being tortured by the CIA. Things can sometimes feel like they’re building up and sometimes you need to take a deep breath and say, “it’s going to be OK.”
9. Remember when…
Ironically, reminiscing about a time before babies can snap you out of a bad spell. You quickly realise how far you’ve come and how good of a job you’re doing in comparison to your carefree/childfree self. Looking back can be a great way of helping you focus on moving forward!